Anger is a natural response to a situation in which we feel hopeless and inadequate to handle it. There are different ways we show anger. Some vent it out by yelling, some use verbal and some use physical forms of expressions. Unfortunately there are some among us who express anger by hurting someone who is not even connected to the reason of anger.
When angry, an individual show physical signs of elated heartbeat, raised breathing with a shot of Adrenalin into our blood stream which makes us feel stronger and able. However, the truth is that this reaction is like steroids to an Athlete which might make him win a few races but makes him weaker and sicker much before the actual time.
The intensity and the direction of anger also depend on an individual’s past, brought up and environment. These factors coupled with the situation at hand makes it an emotion that often gets off hand causing pain to ourselves and people around us.
We cannot numb ‘Anger’ as it is a natural reaction; however we can certainly tame the power of Anger and control it. So the question is how do we reduce anger?
Let’s look at 7 ways we can reduce Anger:
- Do to no one what you don’t want to be done to you: Always keep reminding yourself never to say anything or do anything to anyone that you would not want to be done to you. No one likes to be yelled at or beaten up for a mistake. We always look at making it good and hope for a second chance. In the same way, when someone less wrongs you, give him/her a second chance.
- Count till five: Whenever you find yourself in a situation that you feel might get off hand, just count till five. This diverts your mind and gives you a breather to take a more informed approach to the situation than just an impulsive one.
- Meditation: Find your calm time and calm space for about 10 minutes every day. You don’t have to chant or hymn anything. Just think of nothing and do nothing. You will amazed to benefits you get out of the same. Along with control on anger, it also helps in concentration and thinking abilities.
- Be the better person: Imagine you watching a movie where a group of students are harassing a new student. The new student does not react to that and walks away with a smile! You sure would want to be that better person. It may not be easy developing that kind of strength in a day, however with practice you can be the better person.
- Third person view: In a situation which causes you anger, put yourself in the third person’s view, see the situation like someone who is not involved would. That would give you more perspective to the situation. This again should be practiced and cannot be achieved in a day.
- Avoid alcohol and substance abuse: It is known that majority of the wrong decisions and fatal mistakes happen in the influence of alcohol and substance abuse. Never get into a situation where you lose control of the situation. Be strong and learn to say no!
- Contentment: Anger can also be a byproduct of jealousy, misery, etc. Learn to be happy with what you have and what you are. Know that you are unique and special as you are and you don’t have to compare yourself to someone else.
Live and let Live! Let’s make the World a better place – with less anger and lots of Love!